Smith depicts courtship and marriage rituals that may be viewed as oppressive to modern people.She writes "When the young women of the Nord married, they did so without illusions of love and romance.Before the 18th century, many marriages were not arranged, but rather developed out of more or less spontaneous relationships.After the 18th century, illicit relationships took on a more independent role.
In the context of romantic love relationships, romance usually implies an expression of one's strong romantic love, or one's deep and strong emotional desires to connect with another person intimately or romantically.
According to Giddens since homosexuals were not able to marry they were forced to pioneer more open and negotiated relationships.
These kinds of relationships then permeated the heterosexual population.
Historians believe that word "romance" to have developed in the French vernacular meaning "verse narrative." The word was originally an adverb of the Latin origin "Romanicus," meaning "of the Roman style." The connecting notion is that European medieval vernacular tales were usually about chivalric adventure, not combining the idea of love until late into the seventeenth century.
The word romance has also developed with other meanings in other languages such as the early nineteenth century Spanish and Italian definitions of "adventurous" and "passionate", sometimes combining the idea of "love affair" or "idealistic quality." In primitive societies, tension existed between marriage and the erotic, but this was mostly expressed in taboo regarding the menstrual cycle and birth.