In short, a person feeling like he/she was born in the wrong body is not something merely psychological or imagined—it is true, and it is very real, even in a physical sense.The media, especially with social networking, is the best way to spread the word.It did not even matter that she grew up in Los Angeles—her family ruled with an iron fist, and so did the culture she was a part of.Despite all the awards that constantly put her male self in the spotlight, Vanessa never bragged about them to me, and was deeply unhappy.He was tall, had very typical masculine physical features, and a deep, commanding voice—the image of a pure alpha male.But I would soon find out that “he” was a “she.” I was introduced to “Vanessa.” Vanessa had a great smile, was confident, loved wearing dresses, loved taking care of children, and wanted so badly to have a pedicure with me.
In photos, his eyes were so sad looking; he looked like he was going to cry, even when he wore the flashiest custom-fitted suit.
This male self was what the world knew, and what her conservative family wanted and accepted.
It did not help that her parents had arrived in America from a country whose culture included a strict, traditional, even patriarchal view of gender.
She finally confessed to me that she was in love with me. The attraction was real, intense; it transcended bodies, sexuality, even gender. They are not isolated from us—for many of us they are our parents, our children, our co-workers, our neighbors, our friends and our lovers.
It is understandable that those of a different generation or who were raised with certain beliefs would be totally closed to the idea of a person being transgender, but we must not stop educating.