I haven't dated much and am not the type to make the first move. I'd love to know what you and the Smitten readers think! If the guy you're dating isn't making a move, there could be a few reasons:a) He's super shy.b) He's uncomfortable about his body.c) He's gay.d) He's not attracted to you.e) Something else that we haven't thought of.He's older but I know he hasn't dated for a while. If he's gay or not attracted to you, there's nothing you can do about it (other than be his best friend).I am not sure how to handle this situation without upsetting or angering anyone.I want to put stipulations upon the visit, for instance, guests provide their own food, beverages, linens, etc., for their stay, but how?
Now we've even seen each other in our swimsuits, and still not even a kiss. (We met on a dating site.) The thought of bringing this up in conversation scares me because I don't think we know each other well enough for no-holds-barred honesty. And in that excitement, it’s easy to jump ahead and make some big dating mistakes. Here are nine things to avoid doing in the first month of dating: 1. Here’s a rule you can steal from “How I Met Your Mother”: “Never make plans with a date further in the future than the amount of time you’ve been going out.” Of course, in non-sitcom land, this rule gets voided once you’re in a serious, committed relationship — otherwise, no one could ever make marriage vows — but in the first month of dating, keep plans for the future at a minimum. Don’t buy a dog together, an antique table together, or a couples’ membership to the zoo. Unless you’re just splitting the cost of dinner, keep purchases separate. Your date wants to get to know YOU, not that jerk who dumped you. Your first month of dating might turn into your last. It’s okay to have separate lives, especially this early on. Draw some careful boundaries for your burgeoning relationship. Related: Don’t ask him to reschedule his life for you. Don’t expect him to cancel poker night for your friend’s wine and cheese night. Let her brag to all of her coworkers about you for months before you make an appearance.