'Instead of focusing on the boxes a date checks off, focus on how they make you feel.'To that end, Sussman recommends giving someone two or three dates before writing them off, because they might not have been in the best disposition the first time around.
But of course, if after a few encounters, the chemistry is just not there, don't hesitate to let them know you won't pursue the relationship further.
People tend to like confidence and honesty, so if you had a good time, feel free to let the other person know, be it at the close of a date or the next morning.
Billed as 'speed dating without the talking', Shhh Dating nights launched in London earlier this year and (ironically) word of mouth has seen them spread so fast across the capital that organisers are looking to expand them across the UK.'We often use small talk, alcohol and other distractions to avoid seeing or showing ourselves properly,' explains founder Adam Taffler, who has good reason to boast of his nights' success rates: he met his own girlfriend at one.
Modern dating has paved the way to a whole new array of ways to be rude to potential partners.
If you're not interested in taking things further, try to avoid falling off the face of the Earth, a.k.a ghosting.
Terri Orbuch, who has a Ph D in social psychology, said.I don’t think I felt that connection that I’m looking for and I don’t see a reason to go forward.I wish you lots of luck in the future.'Yes, chance encounters happen, but a proactive approach to dating can dramatically increase your chances of finding a good match.'We believe that the person of our dreams is going to move in next door or sit next to us on a ski lift,' Bruneau said.Giving someone a chance doesn't meant you should let unacceptable behavior fly under the radar.'It's okay to bring things up that concern you, like a date showing up a little late, or a date ordering a dish for you,' Sussman said.'But blatant red flags, like if your date is getting smashed on mixed drinks or consistently talking about his/her ex all the time, mean you should probably run.'Most of the time, it comes down to frequency: mishaps may happen occasionally, but if they become a pattern, it might be best to move on.