Those couples who live in such a sweet loving marriage never consider cheating.Not because it is immoral, but because their hearts minds and souls are so full of love that the thought never enters into their mind. The other reasons, which follow, are trite in comparison. Is it because he is a “two timing so-and-so who should rot in hell”? Those few are cursed with true mental disorders, or are evil (a hard bar to reach).I had never really thought of it like that, but I completely understood what he was talking about. It might even just be cooking dinner at home and eating outside on the patio under bistro lights with candles and music while the kids are asleep.But set a date and time so you can look forward to it during the week, dedicate some alone time, plan what you’re going to wear, which brings me to…I know when we’re in San Francisco next year it will be so fun to have these photos to remember how fun our five years in Southern California were. I don’t think I’ll be ready to say goodbye to OC in May but I’m grateful to have several more months to soak it in!Today I thought we could chat about dating your spouse.Do nothing positive and proactive and your marriage will keep getting worse; guaranteed.But if you take positive action you will not only save your marriage, but you will be able to have a great marriage; I promise you that, too. Either Lessons For A Happy Marriage, or Breaking The Cycle, which is more technical, and could be called a marriage manual; are great options. is in book stores all over the country, and is promoted by couples counselors (even though I recommend against couples counseling), so it sells better. If your marriage is in serious trouble, like if this is not the first time, you need to go all the way to our online courses.
It’s easy to get in a routine (and I love staying in and watching movies with takeout too, don’t get me wrong), but trying something new together can stir up those fresh, new feelings of excitement and fun.
And of course I’m not saying I’m a relationship expert, but these are some of the things we actively try to do, especially when life gets busy and we slip into just going through the motions.
Christian one time told me that the best part of a vacation was looking forward to the trip beforehand.
This is actually another one of Christian’s requests – ha!
When we would go on dates earlier in our relationship, we always dressed up for each other and of course over the years there is a little less effort when you see each other every day vs. Just the act of getting ready and knowing it was done for each other (not for a wedding, girls night, church, etc.). Sometimes this involves traveling somewhere new that we’ve never been.