Before heading home, J and I planned a date for that Thursday.
We exchanged numbers, kissed, said our goodbyes, and I left feeling quite pleased with myself, knowing that I had played my cards right. I wasn’t expecting a call on Monday or Tuesday because of the ‘rules’ and all that, but by Wednesday night I started to feel a little panicked. By 7 pm I had two choices: resign myself to the fact that he isn’t into me, or do something I had never, ever done before- call him. As the phone rang I practiced the message I would leave on his voicemail in my head but was interrupted when, to my astonishment, a very perplexed-sounding J answered the phone.
Experience is the best teacher of all and this particular experience was an eye-opener and game-changer for sure. I met up with a friend one Saturday afternoon at a bar for a football game. He was cute, charming, and we seriously hit it off right away.
Our afternoon of fun turned into a night out and me, my friend, J, and his friend bar-hopped, talked, laughed, danced, and played pool until the wee hours.
But just because he likes four-wheeling doesn’t mean you ignore him; rather it means you get to determine over time if you are content with the effort he’s putting into the relationship.
If he rides every day after work and all weekend at the expense of your relationship, you know what to do.
I understand every guy needs hobbies and that’s great but these guys always mention that they want a woman who shares their interests and I don’t like any of those things, in fact, I can’t do most of them because of health issues and lack of any athletic ability.
I also work out some mornings between -, but that never gets in the way of our life.
Through the years I, like most of you, I’m sure, have found myself in those infamous and utterly maddening situations.
You meet, you hit it off, you get really excited because you’ve finally found a great guy, and after that…silence.
Free advice from a happily married dating coach: he must TOLERATE your dogs. And he must TOLERATE how long it takes you to get ready.
And you must TOLERATE how he only listens to half of what you tell him.