Many abusers will humiliate or embarrass their partners in public as a method of control to “prove” that only the abuser can love them.
A victim of emotional abuse may start to blame themselves for the abuser’s behavior and come to believe what the abuser says.
No one likes to be called names, even when it’s innocent teasing by friends.
The increased awareness of bullying behavior has brought this warning sign more attention.
We all have dealt with nicknames and insults, even among our friends.
And when your ideal partner is scrolling through hundreds of names – Sally102, Jen NYC1, Lawyer Gal – a great username can be the very reason that someone contacts you. And you become convinced that usernames don’t matter. In my opinion, a username should be a pun or a play on words. Wine Not – for the wine aficionado Lady Go Go – for the world traveler Bach To Bach – for the classical music enthusiast Tender Legal – for the soft-hearted lawyer See the common thread?
Most people take one of two wrong tacks when coming up with an online dating username: 1) Putting ZERO thought into it: Bill10247, Claire T, Ally Cat 2) Putting minimal thought into it, using a literal description: Tall Doctor, Gorgeous Goddess, Fun2Be Around The problem with these efforts, of course, is not that they’re “bad”, but rather that they’re BORING. All of them are plays off of real names, idioms or catchphrases, which is why they evoke smiles from readers.
Remember, if the person you love is making you feel bad about yourself then he/she really doesn’t love you. You should feel free to express who you really are with your partner. For confidential help, please call the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline: 1-866-331-9474.
You shouldn’t feel that you need to fix yourself in order to meet your partner’s standard. Recognize the signs of dating abuse and get help if your relationship exhibits any of these characteristics. loveisrespect.org, a collaboration of Break the Cycle and the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline, can now answer your questions and concerns via text message.