During the times I slipped on my hiatus and went on OKCupid, I realized I felt a sense of dread as the homepage loaded because I associated the site with disappointment and rejection.I hadn't even noticed these feelings before because they were overridden by the hope that I'd get that rare good message.Once I let go of the motivation to be coupled up, I lost that sense of urgency because I realized that being single is not unpleasant.
It just felt long because I wasn't comfortable being single—and I wasn't comfortable being single because I just hadn't allowed myself to be.
Looking for love can backfire When I met my partner, I was in the opposite mindset from when I was online dating.
I was just looking for fun and maybe a hookup, not a relationship.
Back when FOMO was keeping me glued to my apps, I wish someone had reassured me other prospects would come my way if I looked up for a second.2.
Online dating is addictive Right after I decided to stop going on OKCupid, I actually had to stop my hands from typing the "o" into my browser when I wanted a work break (OK I slipped up a few times, I'll admit it).