A relationship with the wrong individual however can lead to years of heartache, emotional/social damage, and even physical damage.
A damaging adult partner can damage us, damage our loved ones, and even damage the way we feel about love and romance in the future.
It’s true that we can become infatuated with others quickly – but not make such unrealistic promises and have the future planned after three dates.
The rapid warm-up is always a sign of shallow emotions which later cause “The Loser” to detach from you as quickly as they committed. If your boyfriend or girlfriend blows up and does dangerous things, like driving too fast because they’re mad, breaking/throwing things, getting into fights, or threatening others – that temper will soon be turned in your direction.
The following list is an attempt to outline the characteristics of “The Loser” and provide a manner in which women and men can identify potentially damaging relationships before they are themselves severely damaged emotionally or even physically.
If your partner possesses even one of these features, there is risk in the relationship.
They can turn what is supposed to be a loving, supporting, and understanding relationship into the “fatal attraction” often described in movies.
Healthy individuals will wait for a lot of information before offering a commitment – not three weeks.
One of the things that might attract you to “The Loser” is how quickly he or she says “I Love You” or wants to marry or commit to you.
Typically, in less than a few weeks of dating you’ll hear that you’re the love of their life, they want to be with you forever, and they want to marry you.
At first, you will be assured that they will never direct the hostility and violence at you – but they are clearly letting you know that they have that ability and capability – and that it might come your way.
Later, you fear challenging or confronting them – fearing that same temper and violence will be turned in your direction. Killing Your Self-Confidence “The Loser” repeatedly puts you down.