Even if you don’t want to sleep with someone, once you’re getting tipsy in their home you may feel unwanted pressure or do something the booze led you to think you wanted to do.
Just avoid this situation, at least for the first few dates until you know what you really want from this new person.
While the internet makes it easy for weirdos to hide their weirdness, in my experience — I’ve been using online dating on and off for eight years — I’ve never gone wrong with trusting my gut.
Obviously I haven’t met my Prince Charming (I am currently accepting applications for this position!
” “Text me please” “Please come,” which weirded me out as I wondered what kind of awkward plans he had for me. I hope I don’t really need to say this, but telling someone your hotel information or other uber personal information before even meeting is a bad idea.
Ask yourself, “If this person ends up being a stalker, what information could hurt me if they had?
You may also want to casually drop in that you told your friend back at the hotel (whether you have one or not) you were going on a date and where you’d be; something like “I told my friend we were going on a date and she raved about this restaurant,” to show others know your whereabouts.
— when you’re not relying on them for transportation.
When you have an exchange on these websites there is a middleman “watching” and documenting the exchange, meaning people are held accountable for their actions.
Of course there are always exceptions and things happen; but guess what, you could get hit by a car crossing the street or choke on a candy bar. It’s always funny to me how the people afraid of apps like Ok Cupid and Tinder have no problem going home with a stranger from a bar, where there’s no accountability for who this person is.
Here is some advice from my experience: I’m starting with the most important tip on the list.
These are dating apps, so you should assume the person you’re chatting with is looking to date.