Just a few years ago, I sat down to a meal with a brilliant former student who is now a cardiologist.After he talked about my American Literature class at length, I said to him, “You do realize that when I taught you back then, I was much younger than you are now. ” It was a light bulb moment for me, because I immediately understood that this former student wasn’t seeing me in the present tense through the eyes of the successful thirty-something doctor he is, but would eternally see a mid-twenties version of me through the eyes of the hopeful sixteen-year-old kid he once was.And yet if you are a recent graduate, say less than a year since you passed out, your teacher partner may have some explaining to do to the institution where he/she is employed.This is because most institutions have a very strict policy barring any romantic or sexual involvement between a teacher and a current student.See that you or your dependents have no link to the institution Dating a teacher is a big issue since romantic or sexual relationship between a teacher and student is a grave professional misconduct that can be punishable on several counts.This is because the teacher is in a position of power vis-à-vis the student and can use it to gain romantic and/or sexual favors from the latter.In most developed societies including United States, there are not legal barriers on a person wishing to date a former teacher, provided both are above the age of majority and there is no longer any continuation of the teacher-student relationship between the two.
And then, after just one sip, the magic fizzles out.
by Matthew Quick When I was a young high school teacher, many of my students asked if we could perhaps have a beer together when they turned twenty-one, the legal drinking age here in The States. Three or four years into my teaching stint, I started bumping into former students at bars in and around Philadelphia. They try to use my first name, but can’t ever really pull it off. I ask about their lives and they give me carefully edited updates that feel like answers to test questions.
I always said, “Sure,” thinking they’d graduate and forget all about me. It usually played out like this: a drink arrives unordered and the server points out a familiar face at the other end of the room. And then silence finally conquers all, at which point we hug awkwardly and part ways.
Be aware of the law Like medicine, teaching is seen more of a vocation than a profession.
Hence it is guided by a code of ethics which may however vary from one society and country to another.