They are adults who mostly ignore our advice in favor of what works best for them, and they build their own adult lives with their own spouses and their own kids.
And if we did a good job raising them, they really shouldn’t be running to us with their hands out – ever. Yes, I would agree, but inheritance doesn’t fall into that category.
Let’s look at that list again, and you may see some challenges.
A man who has been married to one woman for over forty years can be challenging.
Some widowers get married very quickly after their loss. Then there are those who wait, and wait, and wait some more, unable to commit. Realistically, it takes special effort by both parties to develop a bond after a spouse has died. She must get some answers and then make an intelligent decision to wait or leave.
Some men get used to being alone, even though they say they don’t want to be by themselves. It’s not like buying a car and knowing you can trade it in a year or 2 later if it isn’t what you want; this one is for life.
They see their parents and grandparents as some sort of long-range saving plan.
A way to pay off the mortgage, plump up retirement plans or just have a wad of cash to fritter away on vacations and material crap.
Dating may be the last thing he ever expected to be doing again.Some may not have ever dated another woman, because they married the first woman they ever met.A lot of older widowers have grown children; in fact, many may even be grandfathers. Widowers often need a woman’s touch around the house.Many have been married for several years—in some cases, more than forty years.Many have had comfortable, long-term relationships and have gotten secure in their daily existence.